5 Books I Recommend to Couples
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Who would I recommend this to?
Anyone in a committed relationship.
Why do I love it?
The Gottmans have done so much for the field of couples counseling, and they have decades of scientific research about relationships. In this book, John Gottman lays out practical tips for interacting with your partner and explains the why of its importance. Also, he has great exercises and ways to keep yourself accountable at the end of each chapter! It’s a fun read, and I believe it can benefit any partnership in just about any circumstance.
2. The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Who Would I recommend this to?
Anyone who has experienced trauma, or loves someone affected by PTSD
Why do I love it?
This book explains how Bessel Van Der Kolk studied the impact of trauma and its real effects on our bodies. In my opinion, it was a very scholarly read and at times felt very heavy. However, this book explained PTSD and human resiliency in a way that made so much sense and enlightened me.
Trigger Warning: In the book, the author discusses stories of child abuse, sexual abuse, and combat.
3. Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Who would I recommend this to?
Anyone in a committed relationship.
Why do I love it?
Esther Perel is an incredible force in the field of relational therapy. In this book, she pushed back against the notion that long-term marriages are doomed to lose their sex appeal. She highlights a balance between security and mystery, stability and creativity, and comfort and eroticism through stories and her observations.
4. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
Who would I recommend this to?
Partners who are healing from infidelity
Why do I love it?
Esther Perel introduces a new way to view affairs, which validates both partners needs while holding both partners accountable. She explores infidelity in the context of meaning and consequence, and does so in a compassionate manner.
5. Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Who would I recommend this to?
Partners and couples who want to improve their sex life, overcome purity culture, or understand their bodies in a new light.
Why do I love it?
Emily Nagoski is one of the lead sex educators. This book is easy to read and adds a deeper level of understanding to sex, pleasure, and intimacy.
